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Getting Over the Hump...
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e-Publisher: Tommy Yan
Added: 08/17/2007
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 Getting Over the Hump...
Lino is a deacon at a local church. After he leads
in prayer, his loving wife Juli remarks that he
overuses the phrase "And, uh." And his word
-searching pauses leave the congregation guessing
and disconnected. She calls him on his stuff.
Juli is Lino's chief asset...
But after years of hearing her husband pray-he
hasn't improved. He hasn't invested in the
resources to develop his potential. He mentioned
joining Toastmasters, but hasn't walked his talk.
Like many of us, we plan-but fail to execute. We
massage our fragile egos hoping no one will ever
call us on our stuff. We hide behind our strengths
never realizing how powerful we can become if we
worked through our weaknesses.
Ask me how many times I intended to attend a
Toastmasters meeting and I'd reply, "At least a
dozen." Ask me to join you swimming and I'd argue,
"I'm not a fish."
I've made excuses, procrastinated, and did
everything but. I attended seminars, bought CDs,
and read books. I spent years rehearsing but never
got on stage.
How about you?
What should you be doing that you wanted to
accomplish last year? Did you really want to lose
weight or did you want to try a new diet? Did you
really want to meet your soul mate or did you want
to dabble in another relationship?
Positive change won't happen by osmosis. You must
take specific, disciplinary action. Often an
uncomfortable one. It's like swimming upstream.
When I started to learn copywriting, I had to write
out long drafts. Word for word. Some up to 40 pages
long. Which took a week because of blisters.
Are you willing to pay the price?
If yes, here are seven keys to help you get over
the hump:
1) Make an investment in you. I began with books,
cassettes, and seminars. Today there are CDs, DVDs,
IPods, and online resources. It's available. Just
one call or one click away.
This is your genesis for positive programming. You
install good programming into your mind to overcome
years of negative programming. This will help you
take better actions toward your personal goals.
When I began, I didn't want to spend one penny
buying this stuff. I was a cheap bastard. But I
learned the more I paid, the more I valued and got
hooked on the information.
Let your friends invest in beer, television, and
other self-defeating vices that smuggle their minds
and wallets. You don't have to join them. The next
key is...
2) Be mindful of your time with friends. I have a
long distance relationship with my old friends. I
keep them a long distance from me.
Most are doing well, but it's just superficial.
Their lack of improvement has left them living
lives of quiet desperation. They deserve limited
time.
But for those who add value to my life, I grant
them more time. For those whose creative juices
stir mine, they have my attention.
3) Exorcise your excuses. I used to believe I
wasn't talented, I'm too shy, I'm not good enough,
or that's impossible. And get down on myself
because I didn't know what it took to become a
success.
But success is a muscle that must be continually
developed and refined. Tiger Woods didn't reach the
top by relaxing by the pool all day. He developed
his skills daily.
And like a jacket that's no longer in style-you can
take off those excuses and bury them in your closet.
4) Answer the questions from your heart-not just
your head. I was in a coaching session with sales
consultant Greg Renstrom. He asked me four questions.
It took me about an hour to answer all four. Greg
guided me to probe deeper and deeper into my soul to
come up with answers and ideas that blew us both
away.
Prior to this, I glossed over these same four
questions in a book and answered each in a few
seconds. Being surface answers, they never gave me
the breakthroughs I got from penetrating my soul.
To avoid answering or making decisions in haste, go
to a place of silence. Breathe deeply. Close your
eyes if you wish. Explore all the possibilities by
expanding within. And be available when the answers
arise.
5) Get a mentor or coach. That's easy. Learn from
their triumphs and mistakes. There's nothing that
can shortcut your learning curve faster. And pay
them what they're worth. Great mentors and coaches
deserve their fee.
Do an Internet search. Ask peers or associates.
Sign up for newsletters. Purchase an introductory
product. Listen to a teleconference. Visit their
website. Enroll in their coaching program. And
experience them live on the platform.
6) What's in it for you? Is it a fancy house in an
exclusive neighborhood? Is it getting back at all
those dream stealers to prove them wrong? Or maybe
it's just to keep your job and a roof over your
family's head.
When you know the reasons why-you can reach your
destiny sooner.
But here's a stronger motivator: If you don't
change course-you'll be at the same place one,
five, and ten years from now. The same income, car,
and annoying neighbors.
7) Take the first plunge. Nothing happens if you
don't act. You can't improve by wishing. You don't
get your dream date sitting at home dreaming about
it.
I took the plunge by participating in a Speaking
Circle. I needed lots of help in front of groups.
Turns out to be one of the best investments I've
made.
Think about where you want to go. And just begin.
Tommy Yan helps business owners and entrepreneurs
make more money through direct response marketing.
He publishes Tommy's Tease weekly e-zine to inspire
people to succeed in business and personal growth.
Get your free subscription today at
www.TommyYan.com.
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